I have a question about helping a friend with self image problems. My friend is actually beautiful, but somewhat overweight. It has bothered her for years……What can I do to help her? I worry that her “extreme measures” will get more extreme with time

COACH:

I am going to separate this answer into two parts, one is about how you can really help (her or anyone else in your life) and the other is a bit about where lack of self acceptance (that we all more or less have some form of) is coming from….

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Hi, I have been dissatisfied with my work lately, but I can’t figure out what is it that I would rather do, should I be looking for a job in the same field that I know but do not enjoy anymore, or should I look for something else. How can I find out what I really would like to do?

COACH:
These feelings suggest a need of change in your life, not necessarily in your surrounding. Consider a few questions before you start thinking of changing your job, or you are going to only delay dealing with the real reason behind this need for change…

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I feel I’m living in chaos: my closets are cluttered, there’s no more space to place a bottle of water on my night stand, my workspace is too chaotic it is highly affecting my performance, and even my thoughts are all over my brain I can’t seem to manage my ideas and creativity… I really need help!!!

COACH:

Chaos is a symptom….

-Where else in my life do I find it difficult to make quick decisions
-Why would I want to be more organized (if you close your eyes, how easy is it to see an organized space around you), write down how it is going to “feel” in detail when you actually get to that point.

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Hi, I am wondering why I haven’t yet found my Mr. Right, I have been reading about the law of attraction lately, and it sounds like all you really have to do is dream

COACH:
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It is because we are only conscious of about 20% of our thoughts, and are mostly oblivious to what is going on in the remaining 80% . As a start we need to become conscious of what we deeply believe around a certain area in our life before we are able to work on changing the results we are getting there.

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